Before reading this book I was thinking of saying no only in the context of stranger danger or drugs. However, as important as these are, there are so many other ways we need to teach our children to use their voices and say, "NO!"
I love the idea that saying no is a superpower. In the story, Zuri explains how saying no gives her control of her life. She explains how she can use no for many other things besides peer pressure and stranger danger. Saying no gives her control over what she wants play, when she wants to play, and who she wants to play with. Zuri tells students sometimes you just want some down time and it's okay to be alone. It's okay to say no when it's a movie or game you are not interested in, or when people are gossiping, or leaving someone out. It's okay to say no and to do it without feeling like you have to lie, make excuses, avoid certain people, or say yes when you really want to say no. Learning to say no appropriately gives children confidence, courage, and a feeling of control over their lives!
Author Jenny Simmons has written a wonderful book for helping children learn to be assertive and respectful without feeling guilty or explaining themselves. Illustrator Kristin Sorra's beautiful and colorful style complements the story with her diverse student and adult characterizations. Check out the short video from author Jenny Simmons as she explains how she came to write I Can Say NO and how learning to say, "No," can empower our students.
I need to say no to my admin when they keep adding other things for me to do or committees for me to join.
ReplyDeleteSay no to others when they label a student with regulation difficulties as a “bad kid”. I will model connection and education to advocate.
ReplyDeleteI need to say no to emails on the weekends
ReplyDeleteI need to say no to self doubt
ReplyDeleteI need to say NO to unrealistic expectations from others
ReplyDeleteFor my self care, I need to say No to toxic people and their negativity(even if they're family)
ReplyDeleteI need to say no to adding more to my plate or staying late
ReplyDeleteSaying no to people who expect me to do their work
ReplyDeleteI need to say no by setting my boundaries and not letting others take advantage of my kindness.
ReplyDeleteI need to learn to say ‘no’ when I’m automatically saying ‘yes’ just to please others.
ReplyDeleteI’m working with an 11 y/o kiddo with parents and a sibling w/ mental health disorders and who has parentification issues - would this book be good for him?
ReplyDeleteI need to learn to say no to more tasks. Setting boundaries is something I need to work on.
ReplyDeleteI can say no to comparing myself to others.
ReplyDeleteI can say no to self doubt and always trying to please others even when I feel compromised.
ReplyDeleteI can say no to extra duties when I feel stretched thin
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